VIRGIN

I'm 17 (18 in three months) and am still a virgin. I've never been on a date, let alone kissed a guy. Is this normal? How old were you when you lost your vinginity? Am I really abnormal?
Category Dirty Little Secret

advice from Guest1082863 | 10-04-2007 22:11 | E : 2 | S : 0
Also it will mean so much more, if you just ever share that part of your soul with just one person in life, like in marriage. My wife is the only one that I've ever shared that with and it is beautiful, more so that just some drunk girl at a party.
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advice from Guest1179931 | 10-18-2007 18:12 | E : 2 | S : 0
There is no such thing. Everyone is different. They will have sex eventually if at all. In their own time in their own way. (i never say lose virginity because its more like you gain something instead of losing.)
so basically as far as this goes. Don't worry about it. If you want to, then go for it. If you don't want to, then don't. Never feel compelled to do anything just because of your age or those around you. It is YOUR body. YOUR decision. No one can decide for you. so dont let them.
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advice from Guest1214398 | 10-23-2007 12:24 | E : 2 | S : 0
im 18 soon to be 19 and never kissed a guy in my life. i am not insecure or ugly or anything, but i just never really had a boyfriend. maybe the guys around where i live are all jerks! lol but someday i'll find him.......

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advice from Guest1105079 | 10-08-2007 03:41 | E : 1 | S : 0
I didn't get my first kiss til I was 16. and when I was 18 I got pregnant even though we used a condom.... be careful pregnancy isn't what you want so young....but trust me an abortion would ruin your life at that age, TRUST ME
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advice from Guest1387810 | 11-09-2007 20:30 | E : 1 | S : 0
I lost my virginity at 20(4 months b4 my 21st)... Just stop worrying, and live your life happy... You'll find someone when you're not really searching. Just put yourself in good situations, or in places of interest to you... It'll happen. You're not abnormal. I know a 30 year old woman in that same situation, but she's been so picky about men that she won't let herself fall in love.

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advice from Guest1500458 | 11-19-2007 21:16 | E : 1 | S : 0
I lost mine when i was 20. I waited until i found the most amazing girl ever. I know shes the one i want to spend the rest of my life with. Making love is so unbelieveable when you have the right emotional feelings towards the other person. I hate people who just have sex to make themselves feel good. When my gf and i do it...we are more concerned about making eachother feel amazing. But the thing is...she didnt wait for me and that still bothers me today. Trust me...it will mean so much to your future husband if you wait for him.
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advice from Guest1074296 | 10-03-2007 18:53 | E : 0 | S : 0
I was 18. you are not abnormal. you'll lose it when you are ready. just enjoy life...no pressure:)
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advice from Guest1071136 | 10-04-2007 15:33 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm 17 (18 in less than a month) and I have never kissed a guy either. I also happen to know lots of girls and guys that are in the same situation. You are not alone.
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advice from Guest1080749 | 10-04-2007 15:48 | E : 0 | S : 0
19.
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advice from Guest3457768 | 10-04-2007 17:07 | E : 0 | S : 0
SO, WHAT'S THE HURRY? DON'T LOSE IT, YOU DON'T REALLY NEED TO JUST BECAUSE YOU SEE IT ON TV. TV TENDS TO EXAGERATE THINGS. LOSE IT WITH THE ONE YOU REALLY LOVE.
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advice from Guest938088 | 10-04-2007 23:44 | E : 0 | S : 0
My son is almost 20 and still a virgin.He's in no hurry to go there. There's alot to enjoy in life. It will happen and you will know its time. Respect yourself is what I told both of my sons. Be happy!!
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advice from Guest940891 | 10-05-2007 03:08 | E : 0 | S : 0
Yes, make it with the right one. Im a guy and im gonna tell you this much, sex changes a relationship. Its one more thing to cause pain if you break up. So be sure your ready for it before you do it. It doesnt really change anything about you, and for me it didnt change other peoples opinion of me in my school. Be careful what you wish for. I lost my virginity at the cost of my heart being broke. Oh and I was 18 when I lost mine too. Dont worry it will work out.........
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advice from Guest1046027 | 10-05-2007 05:55 | E : 0 | S : 0
thanks, i was starting to worry. i feel a lot better about this. i really want to experiment, but i guess that's not really the right reason to lose it, eh?
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advice from Guest1104806 | 10-08-2007 03:46 | E : 0 | S : 0
i was 19. the only thing that matters is that you have sex with someone you really WANT to lose it to. dont just have sex with anyone because you want to have the experience under you belt.... it wont be nearly as good. i felt the same way at the time but in retrospect it doesn't matter when it happens
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advice from Guest1119291 | 10-10-2007 04:38 | E : 0 | S : 0
I didn't kiss a guy until I was 19 and lost my virginity that same year. One of my friend's didn't lose her virginity until she was 22!
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advice from Guest2909495 | 10-11-2007 14:48 | E : 0 | S : 0
I was 18 before i was ever kissed and almot 22 before i lost my virginity. Honestly weight till the right person comes around. I would take back my first if I could. I would rather be a 24 year old virgin .
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advice from Guest1141289 | 10-13-2007 03:25 | E : 0 | S : 0
I was 18.

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advice from Guest1163066 | 10-16-2007 07:49 | E : 1 | S : 1
I'm 19 and a virgin and I've never been kissed and I'm going to keep it that way until I'm married. Don't let any sort of outside pressure make that decision for you- it's a big one and you should make it how you want to!

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advice from Guest1017126 | 10-17-2007 21:18 | E : 0 | S : 0
You are completely fine. There are tons of people who never have sex until marriage- late in their 20's and 30's.

Don't be afraid of an adventure, but be careful, too.

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advice from Guest2811134 | 10-18-2007 01:07 | E : 0 | S : 0
im 17 and never been kisses either. sometimes its anoying but i dont want to give something like that up just for anyone.

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advice from Guest1162845 | 10-18-2007 04:20 | E : 0 | S : 0
Im 20 now...i didnt have my first real sexual experience till the summer after i graduated....its totally normal..your not alone....and believe me..your not missing out ..you just wait till your ready n you meet someone nice...once you pop..you wont stop...so just be good..

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advice from Guest1179931 | 10-18-2007 18:13 | E : 0 | S : 0
Oh and that doesnt mean "saving it up" for the one you love. Its all about what you want.
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advice from Guest1090571 | 10-20-2007 21:45 | E : 2 | S : 2
Not at all. I'm 21 and never been kissed
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advice from Guest1205825 | 10-22-2007 01:15 | E : 0 | S : 0
i lost it when i was 14. to a guy that was bi and eventually was whispering his biy-crush' name in my ear. trust me its not how old you are, its the person you choose to be with. make it special
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advice from Guest1206726 | 10-22-2007 03:50 | E : 0 | S : 0
I was 20. It is perfectly normal. Just because all of your friends might be doing it doesn't mean it's right for you. Protect your health and your heart and wait until YOU are ready.
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advice from Guest1203363 | 10-23-2007 04:12 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm a guy in the same boat and I know what your goin' through, Everybody says save yourself for marriage, Those people have gotten laid. I know it's tough but theres somebody out there for everybody. Hey, maybe we're meant to be together.

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advice from Guest1180443 | 10-24-2007 20:34 | E : 0 | S : 0
STD's You ARE SMART.

Check them out on the web - with pics.... that might help

BTW I was 18 when i gave it up and my best friend was 25 when she lost it.... NOOOOOOOOOOO rush
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advice from Guest1241611 | 10-25-2007 01:45 | E : 0 | S : 0
i'll be 17 this month and im a virgin and i no alot of people in your situtation... and i no alot of girls and guys who havent been kissed some were alread 18 before they got their 1st kiss...ur normal dont worry
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advice from Guest1247137 | 10-25-2007 18:51 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm 23. & I though exactly like you. I found the right person, my boyfriend, and all the question marks that I had are gone. He was the first and only man in my life; we are together for almost 2 years and half now. Expect the unexpected and live your life. No pressure

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advice from Guest1259257 | 10-27-2007 06:47 | E : 0 | S : 0
I was 18 when I first got kissed, still a virgin, sometimes i wonder what's the point in keeping my virginity, it seems so cheap nowadays, but it's not, once you give it away it's gone forever, so give it to the person who you marry, it's the best wedding present in the world.

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advice from Guest1259812 | 10-27-2007 07:31 | E : 0 | S : 0
No honey, you aren't abnormal at all! I didn't have a real first kiss until a month after my 19th birthday, and I had the kiss with the man I love and the one I am going to marry in under a year. I gave him my virginity a month after that.


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advice from Guest1259486 | 10-28-2007 01:40 | E : 0 | S : 0
I didn't get my first kiss until I was 18. I lost my virginity at age 23.

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advice from Guest1267049 | 10-28-2007 07:21 | E : 0 | S : 0
You're perfectly normal. The world is abnormal. I'm completely serious.

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advice from Guest1274023 | 10-29-2007 03:53 | E : 0 | S : 0
You are not abnormal. I was 16 when i first had sex, and i was 15 when I did EVERYTHING else. I would give anything to take it back.

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advice from Guest1290086 | 10-31-2007 00:30 | E : 0 | S : 0
Not nearly as abnormal as you might think, It wasnt until i went away to university i learned that i was not the only virgin who had never been kissed, dont worry about it at all.

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advice from Guest1302349 | 11-01-2007 15:05 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm so jealous of you.

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advice from Guest1308922 | 11-02-2007 10:03 | E : 0 | S : 0
I was 17 when I lost my virginity. First kiss at 16... there's nothing wrong with you. You just have to take your time. Things will happen naturally. Don't just have sex with anyone... make it special. When it happens, it happens, and it happens for a reason.

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advice from Guest1341285 | 11-07-2007 13:39 | E : 0 | S : 0
don't do it for the crowd, don't do it out of curiosity.

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advice from Guest1399013 | 11-11-2007 02:08 | E : 0 | S : 0
i lost mine when i was 14.
i am jealouse of you.
i wish i never lost it at all.
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advice from Guest1412507 | 11-12-2007 16:19 | E : 0 | S : 0
i wish i was you right now.
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advice from Guest1433218 | 11-13-2007 21:58 | E : 0 | S : 0
Totally normal. I was a virgin until I was 19 and do not regret waiting.
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advice from Guest1445529 | 11-14-2007 21:34 | E : 0 | S : 0
you're not weird or anything.
i'm 16 and i still haven't properly kissed anyone, had a boyfriend or anything like that.
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advice from Guest1459851 | 11-16-2007 03:08 | E : 0 | S : 0
i was 17 for my first kiss and i lost my virginity the month before i turned 19...dont rush, kids are doing stuff younger and younger and its rapidly losing its importance. keep it special
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advice from Guest1470809 | 11-16-2007 22:39 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm 18 on Xmas eve. Ive only had one boyfriend and we kissed once. I'm still a virgin and proud of it. Stay true to yourself.
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advice from Guest3285745 | 11-17-2007 02:11 | E : 0 | S : 0
Why is it that everyone thinks that's such a bad thing? It's not. You're not abnormal. Everyone's different, but most people in general actually loose their virginity long after their 18th birthday. I would bet you you know a lot more virgins than you think.
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advice from Guest1473639 | 11-17-2007 04:02 | E : 0 | S : 0
CLEAN TEEN! CLEAN TEEN! CLEAN TEEN! VIRGIN TIL' MARRIGE! dooooooooooo it dooooooooooooooo it
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advice from Guest1990689 | 01-06-2008 21:09 | E : 0 | S : 0
I had the same thought. I was 17... and hadn't lost my virginity yet. I felt so out of place, so when I had the chance... I took it. Don't be afraid to wait. I wish I waited until I found someone I loved... let alone wanted to be with. You aren't abnormal at all. :]
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advice from Guest1137673 | 10-12-2007 16:03 | E : 0 | S : 1
i got my first kiss at 11 and lost my virginity at 16 i was in love with the guy though!

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advice from Guest1274017 | 10-29-2007 03:33 | E : 0 | S : 4
call me

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advice from Guest1267049 | 10-28-2007 07:22 | E : 0 | S : 13
Remember, its a flap of skin, so its not really a big deal, its like a wedding, you can always do it again.

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