Weed

Everyone in my family thinks we're all golden, my mom seems and looks like a normal mother, however she smokes weed. We have lost our phone, mortgage is always late, gas is shut off from time to time, she doesn't know that I know, but it eats me alive, I'm an MP in the Army.
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advice from Guest1808053 | 12-18-2007 05:49 | E : 0 | S : 0
You have to start thinking of it like any other addiction--the people that say marijuana isnt addictive are either potheads or ignorant. I know what you mean because I have a relative that is the same way, except he is more of a "functional addict" financially speaking. Still, its an addiction like any other, and probably stems from anxiety, depression, issues from the past, or a combination of those things. You cant keep yourself in that situation, and youre going to have to distance yourself from her if she doesnt take positive steps once you confront her. And youre going to have to--for your own peace of mind and for the possibility of her breaking the addiction. It doesnt have to be a shout-fest or agonizing, but even if it doesnt go well, its a first step towards either her getting better, or your starting to move on in your life away from addiction. Al-Anon is a group you might want to consider, its all about how to grow for people who have been around addicts. You need to start soon, you deserve better in your life than to have something eating away at you like that.
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advice from Guest1984548 | 01-25-2008 07:51 | E : 0 | S : 0
I know many many people addicted to pot. I used to be myself (5 months without!). I know that not everyone gets that bad in their addiction - I was never late with my rent, nor did I have my phone or poewr shut off ever. But I know many who have. I agree, you need to distance yourself from it, so you aren't hurt more than you already are. It's hard to make people see themselves for what they are - believe me, I have tried. All you can do is be there for them and support them when they are ready to change.
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advice from Guest2264299 | 02-05-2008 10:28 | E : 1 | S : 1
This is B.S! You are using weed as a scapegoat! - my mother smokes everyday and has NEVER missed a bill of any kind, she keeps every single reciept from every purchase! - The house is NEVER one bit dirty! The fridge is always full of fresh groceries! She gets the car serviced on time every time! she works in town everyday and STILL stays more on top of everything than anyone I have ever met!

- I know plently of responsible, well adjusted adults who smoke m.j everyday and still keep the place sick and span, and pay their bills, and hold their happy familys together! Loads of people smoke and are highly productive members of society!

Jesus! You talk like it's heroin or meth! Its just a smoke! weed!

If your mum is behind on her bills or whatever (not that it's even a problem in comparison to some of the issues confronted on this site) i's cos she's bad with money, or forgetfull! its not because shes "addicted" to the demon weed!

By the way (a little off-topic here) - studies have PROVEN that marijuana is NOT addictive!
Get your facts straight!

You sound as though you've been brainwashed by the Military! I suppose you wholeheartedly agree with the war on Iraq/"terrorism"/drugs too, eh? Good Judgement all round then.
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advice from Guest2265045 | 02-06-2008 14:08 | E : 0 | S : 0
Marijuana isn't chemically addictive. People only *think* they need it, meaning it's a MENTAL addiction. That's what people mean when they say it isn't addictive. And Mental addiction is a very real thing, but don't put yourself in a position to look like a dumbass.
Weed smoking is better than tobacco smoking, as far as health goes. It's just illegal. So was alcohol at one point (still kinda is, depending on where you live)
Everyone's family is just as dysfunctional as the next - just in different areas. Get over it.
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advice from Guest1597666 | 02-10-2008 15:05 | E : 0 | S : 0
ok...first of all marijuana has nothing to do with your mothers irresponsibilities. it is not the pot that is stopping her from doing these things. its not the weed that is making her disfunctional or not allowing her to get her shit done. its not the fact that she smokes it, it is her personality. just because she is smoking pot doesnt mean she cant do anything, it is her own fault not the weed. she probably just smokes the weed to try and sescape all of her numerous problems. the weed is helping her feel comforted and good. she has way bigger problems preventing her from paying the bills on time then smoking some pot.
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