What-Who-Why am I
QuickCode : questioning gay
I feel like I've been so confused for ages about who I am attracted to. I had a crush on a girl in high school...and now, I think I'm starting to fall in love with a guy, a straight guy. As much as I accept others who are gay, I can't even fathom to believe that I am bisexual, or gay, or something "not normal." I constantly feel like forgeting the whole thing, and keeping others believing that I'm fully straight. But I can't help having feelings for this guy. I mean, if the thought of him dating a girl scares me, does this mean I'm gay? No one knows, and I don't want anyone to know...even myself. I just needed to get it out somewhere, even without an answer.
Category General Confession
Submitted 02-22-2007 22:06
Visited 1326 times. 95.00 Compelling Rating (rated 6 times) 96.67 Sincerity Rating (rated 6 times)
advice from Guest2556463 | 03-13-2007 00:36 | E : 2 | S : 0
I went through the same thing myself. I ended up falling in love with the greatest man i have even met in the world....i am gay. i haven't told my family yet. but i am happier than i have ever been even in my own dreams. don't label yourself. you are you, something which no label can describe, and don't let anyone else do it either. love is love, regardless of who or what it is for, love yourself and love others.
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advice from Guest2676369 | 03-26-2007 09:21 | E : 1 | S : 0
being gay isnt not normal. its a feeling. dont be afraid to tell people . if they are friends they wont care
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advice from Guest2675960 | 03-26-2007 08:18 | E : 0 | S : 0
yeah i totally agree with the last comment, you dont have to be anything, you arejust you and your attracted to whoever and whatever you want, you dont have to be gay or bisexual you're just you but i can understand that its alright saying that but it wont make it feel any better.
ithought i was straight, then i met this amazing girl,we are best friends but she is 5 years older than me (im still in school please dont feel patronised) and she is in university and i just felt so protective over her and wanting to be with her that it felt like love but really i know that i just did'nt want her to lead a life without me, and i felthurt when she told me about guys in her life, but i have just accepted that im going to be there for the long run, guys will come in and out of her life, but she can tellmeanything and i'll alwways bethere for her,so yeah dont directly dismiss it as being gay your feelings maybe ar'nt clear just now just hang in and imsure things will work out themselves, good luck i hope i've been of help xxx
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advice from Guest2724526 | 03-31-2007 22:44 | E : 0 | S : 0
Some straight guys will have a single gay experience and others will be totally bi. Things are NOT as clear cut as Straight-Bi-Gay. Some people fall in between the lines. Sounds like you.
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advice from Guest2669759 | 04-06-2007 14:06 | E : 0 | S : 0
sexuality is fluid, just go with the flow; dont hasten to put a label on it.
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advice from Guest2858189 | 04-15-2007 10:01 | E : 0 | S : 0
Just be as honest with yourself as you possibly can. It will help. Trust me.
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advice from Guest2898694 | 04-17-2007 16:11 | E : 0 | S : 0
"labels are for canned food" love who you love, and have fun with it. best of luck
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advice from Guest2398733 | 05-04-2007 16:20 | E : 0 | S : 0
thank you guys.
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advice from Guest3106916 | 05-10-2007 06:17 | E : 0 | S : 0
My father is gay and everyone in the family knows it because we have found gay magazines, and I have met several of his gay "friends". He swears he is straight, though. He is always so depressed and I think this is why. He is ashamed of his sexuality, and I think that you should be proud of who you are. Don't live your life in shame.
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advice from Guest3107692 | 05-10-2007 10:25 | E : 0 | S : 0
I was heart broken once when a female friend traded me in for another female best friend. I felt all of the same sadness I had ever felt for a male female relationship. I mourned my loss equally. However, I was never inclined to feel anything sexual toward her. Do you feel sexual toward teh man you have feelings for?
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advice from Guest3111984 | 05-11-2007 11:45 | E : 0 | S : 0
"Normal" is a setting on an electrical appliance. It in no way discribes any person that I have ever met. Be gay or be straight, although I have never met a true bisexual man (just transitioning gay's) that doesn't mean that they are not out there. I have never met a unicorn either, but I've seen pictures!
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advice from Guest3116267 | 05-12-2007 17:58 | E : 0 | S : 0
okay, this was a huge problem for me, too, and i'm female. there's a sexuality called "pan-sexuality." it's what i am. the whole thing about it is that you don't like a specific gender. if you have strong enough feelings for someone or love them enough, you'll date them. it doesn't matter if they're a boy. it doesn't matter if they're a girl. it's about YOUR feelings and what YOU want to do.
don't feel "not normal" or bad about this. it's in your genes. you can't change yourself. be happy in your own body and enjoy who you are. you only get to live once.
ee good luck with everything. i hope i helped.
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