Wife

Ever since i've been deployed, i've let my wife have f___ buddies, but it really hurts me inside... i really just want her to be happy and stay with me
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advice from Guest3133862 | 05-29-2007 07:59 | E : 8 | S : 0
:( I've often thought about what I would do if I were married to a guy in the military who had to leave for months on end and serve as well. As much as I'm a person with desires that I would want to fulfill as well, I don't think I could bring myself to cheat on my husband. I would probably just buy a really high-tech vibrator and wait for his return. Love is about patience sometimes.
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advice from Guest3311346 | 07-01-2007 14:13 | E : 7 | S : 0
please, please don't think so low of your self!!! if she truly loved you, she never would cheat on you with or without your permission. as an ex-military wife, i should know. he didn't have a problem cheating and that led to the demise of our marriage but not once did i ever relish in the thought of cheating. please, have courage in yourself to say "it's enough and i deserve better". you are worth it! and yes the only f-ing friend i had was B.O.B. (Battery Operated Boyfriend). however i saw many marriages so through the worst when one was deployed; cheating that led to abortions, nobody used protection because "everyones clean" and "i've got good health insurance", marriages in such disarray that one man committed suicide! (there was also many attempted suicides). please get advice from your chaplain, he's there to assist and guide you, in a non-judgemental way. if she really loved you, she would wait for your heroic return!!! ~best wishes....
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advice from Guest3198860 | 06-03-2007 14:58 | E : 5 | S : 0
that is so sad. :( if she really loved you she wouldn't need any other man. i am so sorry.
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advice from Guest2551389 | 03-06-2008 19:04 | E : 4 | S : 0
As a military wife. If the love is true you don't need another man. maybe you need to take a step back & look at your relationship. I've been faithful to my husband from bootcamp-deployments. I would never even think of having another man in my life. sex isn't even an issue when he's gone cause the antisipation of him coming back, it's like the honeymoon stage everytime he comes back. you really need to get some help or let her go. it takes a tough women to marry military & sad to say some can't hack it!! sounds like she's really not made for it, I'm sorry i'll pray for you both
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advice from Guest3179179 | 05-29-2007 11:04 | E : 2 | S : 0
Disaster - first come's sex then comes feelings then comes relationship - no more husband. Imagine if something happened while you were deployed, would you want to have your benefits continue to pay her to have sex with other guys??? F___ buddies is a horrible idea. If she can't stay committed to you now, what makes you think she'll stop if you ever get a 9-5 job??? End it all now.
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advice from Guest3230479 | 06-12-2007 17:58 | E : 6 | S : 4
How could you even touch her again knowing that all kinda men have been all over her body??? VERY bad decision.
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advice from Guest3340507 | 07-07-2007 14:27 | E : 2 | S : 0
If it bothers you, ask her to stop. If you say nothing and just let it eat you up inside, there is no one to blame but yourself. This really isn't a case of her being unfaithful...it's a case of you giving her a longer leash then you're comfortable with. Good luck.
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advice from Guest861200 | 09-03-2007 18:20 | E : 2 | S : 0
She should stay with you because she loves you, not because you let her have f___ buddies! If you are deployed serving our country, she should buy a vibrator and count down the days until you get home! You derserve better than that. Sex is important but cant be the base of a relationship.
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advice from Guest1387548 | 11-09-2007 19:44 | E : 2 | S : 0
oh my God .. i'm sorry but SHES in the wrong.. if she were a good person she'd wait for YOU AND YOU ONLY

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advice from Guest3111677 | 05-30-2007 16:56 | E : 1 | S : 0
Just becouse your wife is home alone dosen't mean she had to cheat with or with out your input. My husband was deployed last year and I never once thought about cheating. If she loves you like a wife should love a husabnd then she shouldn't be letting other men down there, and you should find someone that loves you a much as you love her. Someone that would not do that kind of thing to her husband who is putting his life in danger to protect her freedom.
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advice from Guest2317487 | 02-11-2008 09:32 | E : 1 | S : 0
I was with a army guy once he was stationed in New York and I in Florida I can't speak for him if he didn't cheat but I never did and our relationship went on for 14 months. I even flew up there to see him.
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advice from Guest3173405 | 05-30-2007 14:07 | E : 0 | S : 0
Her only fBuddy should be her finger. It's not hard at all to do. You're reading too many mens magazines if you think what she is doing is ok. I would chalk her up to experience. When you get home get divorced and start your next marriage out with total faithfulness, like they are meant to have.
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advice from Guest1007912 | 09-23-2007 18:48 | E : 1 | S : 1
it doesn't mean she doesn't love you.
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advice from Guest1190515 | 10-19-2007 22:35 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm so sorry.
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advice from Guest1532581 | 11-23-2007 04:05 | E : 0 | S : 0
She won't stay with you. I know that fact hurts more than knowing she has benifits buddies. The only reason I know, is because my ex said I could cheat while he was deployed too... and I listened to him.
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advice from Guest1932373 | 12-30-2007 22:15 | E : 1 | S : 1
i love you.
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advice from Guest2103040 | 01-18-2008 01:15 | E : 0 | S : 0
If she truly loved you she would just get a sex toy! Buy her one, along with a video of yourself, and send it to her saying " this is the only F___ buddy you'll need from now on". You deserve to be treated better than that dude
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advice from Guest3341938 | 07-07-2007 21:29 | E : 0 | S : 2
my husband is deployed, and i have cheated on him twice...he doesnt know and i cant imagine the hurt he would feel if he knew...you never know how hard it is until you are away from eachother for 15 months
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advice from Guest3111677 | 05-30-2007 16:57 | E : 1 | S : 4
YOU DID WHAT IF SHE LOVED YOU SHE WOULDN'T ASK SOMETHING LIKE THAT AND IF YOU WERE SMART YOU WOULDN'T HAVE TOLD HER SHE COULD DUMBASS
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advice from Guest1987689 | 01-06-2008 14:00 | E : 0 | S : 5
Sex is not love! Unfortunately, many people can confuse the two. If she is able to keep them seperate then it's fine. Some people have open relationships like that while they are together. It's really important that she is honest with you about every person and experience she has. If there are secrets then there is a problem. Also, you REALLY need to have your own "friends with benefits" if you feel the need for sex. She has to be OK with that as well or she is not being honest with you. Man...sex really messes up a good relationship :)
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