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I'm gay. Nobody knows but me. I feel as if i will be treated differently and be seen as a failure if I come out.
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advice from Guest2191892 | 01-28-2008 00:38 | E : 0 | S : 0
You have nothing to be ashamed of. My older brother came out of the closet a few years back, and I know for a fact that I don't view him as a failure or treat him any differently than when we were kids.

Keep this in mind. If anyone were to stigmatize you for this, they aren't the type of people you want, or need, to be around. Find others who are accepting and live your life.
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advice from Guest2121794 | 01-28-2008 19:59 | E : 0 | S : 0
your friends and family should love you no matter what. and if they don't that is there loss.
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advice from Guest2207408 | 01-29-2008 19:26 | E : 0 | S : 0
I know many gay people and all of them are soo happy they came out about it. They can finally breathe and live! You are NOT a failure! Please know and believe that...and if nobody will love you, know that i will and i care
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advice from Guest2231577 | 02-03-2008 19:00 | E : 0 | S : 0
your true friends will always love you for you, remember that. You cant change the way you are, and you should never want to. The people that leave and walk away werent your true friends to begin with and arent worthy of your friendship. Good luck to you, i hope that the best what could happen will and that your friends will still love you. Your not a failure for who you are. dont be afraid to stand out. maybe you should join a support group?
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advice from Guest2278263 | 02-06-2008 22:44 | E : 0 | S : 0
I'm Bisexual, and I told my parents, and I thought they would s___ a brick, they don't care.
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advice from Guest2379359 | 02-23-2008 16:55 | E : 0 | S : 0
just come out. people should love you for who you are not if your gay or not. it might be hard in the beginning but it will get easier...i promise.
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advice from Guest2677377 | 03-19-2008 09:46 | E : 0 | S : 0
Thats What I thought befor I came out of the closet. but be strong if people really care about you the way they say they do they will accept you.
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advice from Guest2703751 | 03-23-2008 00:46 | E : 0 | S : 0
Omg you sound just like my friend. Ok, I'm a Lesbian and honestly, like, no one really cares. You will be shocked how much they just don't care. There will probably be a couple that are a little aprehensive, but if they can't accept you how you are, they were never your friends to begin with. And there will always be homophobic pricks out there. But hey, there are people who still hate women and black people and immigrants... They can just get the f___ over it.
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advice from Guest2568060 | 03-25-2008 20:56 | E : 0 | S : 0
I would love to say that you should screw the consequences and come out no matter what, but that really can be dangerous. Depending on where you live or who your parents are, you could be harassed, kicked out of your house, or physically beaten. If the place you live in is fairly accepting, I say go for it. If it isn't, you might want to wait until you move out or go to college. Hiding for those years will hurt, but coming out could hurt you more DEPENDING ON THE SITUATION. The situation you are in is key.
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